If so, Helen Fisher is the messenger.
It is possible to remain in love long-term…We’ve evolved three distinct brain systems for mating and reproduction: sex drive, feelings of intense romantic love, and feelings of cosmic attachment to a long-term partner. Together, these three emotions orchestrate our sexual, romantic and our family lives; but they live in the most primitive parts of the brain, far below our conscious reason and attention.
— Listen to a TED talk by Helen Fisher, scientific adviser to match.com.
To me, her most surprising thesis is that the patriarchy is only 10,000 years old, and that we were evolved for hundreds of thousands of years before that for the more egalitarian relationships to which we are returning.
“Modern technology is not going to change who we choose to love.”